Decide to treat all your neighbors with consideration and respect. Be a resident ‘ambassadors’ to help welcome newcomers as they transition into the community.
Aspire to live by the Golden Rule.
Today we often read about cyber bullies among young people, but bullying also plagues seniors. The behavior being referenced would be incidents of name-calling, bossy behavior, loud arguments, snubs and aggression.
Causes and strategies
Fear can be one reason for bullying, says Renee Garfinkel, a Washington, D.C.-based psychologist who specializes in aging issues, but it’s also “that human phenomenon of the strong picking on the weak. It’s not a function of aging. It’s a function of pathology.” Continue reading
Gambling destroys the work ethic. The core values of the work ethic are all part of the free enterprise system. Gambling corrupts these values and replaces them with greed and selfishness. Rather than depending upon hard work, gamblers depend instead upon luck and chance.
“I hate casinos!” was my not at all wimpy comment while my coworker replied in like manner….. “I love casinos!” We were not developing an argument, but clearly our opinions were far apart when it came to the issue of gambling.
It got me thinking………. Why am I so opposed to gambling?
Go to any casino and you’ll see many gray heads at the slot machines and blackjack tables. Gambling has become a popular pastime for seniors who often have time to spare and holes in their lives to fill. Gambling, like many things in life, can become addictive and seniors who are bored or lonely may be more vulnerable to addictive behaviors. Continue reading
Here’s the thing… It is never too late to develop a personal walk with God and old age is as good a time as any to begin.
I grew up in the early 50’s and my parents like many of their friends believed in making it a practice to attend church as a family. For them, church was a core item in our home and not an addendum that would be discarded by other distractions. Quite the opposite… Other distractions were discarded or never considered on the basis of what they were learning and becoming as a result of their devotion to personal growth in their faith walk with God. Continue reading
Smiling is a good idea for lots of reasons. A sunny disposition and demeanor favorably colors the interactions of my days for the most part… but not every time.
“Hi Smiley” was the greeting I recently received from a business associate while attending a lovely event in glamorous surroundings. It was early in the day and the mood was festive and pleasant. It was interesting to think about the notion that I must come across as a person who is smiling and cheerful a good bit of the time. As I considered this thought, the words to a song taught to me by my parents came to mind.
Let the sunshine in, face it with a grin.
Smilers never lose, and frowners never win,
So let the sunshine in, face it with a grin.
Open up your heart and let the sunshine in. Continue reading
I like working and having a job puts me in touch with some interesting people. There are jobs for those who are willing to put their passion and experience to good use.
I am hearing from some of my peers that they are definitely not living the comfortable retirement lifestyle they always imagined because the needed money is just not there. Complicating matters, things keep getting more expensive, while incomes remains fixed. Something’s got to give.
The solutions are that same as they have always been. Cut spending and increase income at the same time. Continue reading
I wrote my own story in 500 words, making sure I did not leave out the failures and mistakes that were also part of the tapestry of my life so far.
No matter how old I feel, I know that I am in the final quarter of the game. There is a lot of living left, but I think often about what I want to leave behind for the people I love. The essence of connection to other people is “being known” and I want those I love to know who I am and what I am about.
Obviously, I will leave behind all my stuff and whatever money I have accumulated, but what I really want to leave is the ideas and beliefs that have driven everything along the way. Continue reading
For about the last year, I have been eating lots of fresh fruit and vegetables. OK… so my grocery bill is high, but it occurred to me that there has been a good trade-off here.
My peers are a group of aging people. I hear plenty of talk about the cost of medications that seem to be prescribed like a “mixed cocktail” that sometimes necessitates elaborate plans on the part the patient to make sure it all goes down at the right time, in the right dose. In fact, this is so common that one might assume that it just has to be that way. I disagree. Continue reading
Find a younger person that is living in the storm of life right now that you have lived in the past. There are no NEW problems, just recycled ones!
As we get older, there is a natural drift toward isolation. Senior men and women begin to feel marginalized as their world shrinks and the choices are not as wide open as they were in the past. So how can we find meaning and purpose for our lives during the final season? How can we invest ourselves during the final season?
We live our lives forward, but we understand them by looking backward. Continue reading
The fire started in the kitchen which is often the case in apartment living for seniors who for a variety of reasons find the kitchen to be less manageable as they age.
I know a woman whose home was damaged in an accidental fire. The fire started in the kitchen which is often the case in apartment living for seniors who for a variety of reasons find the kitchen to be less manageable as they age. Independent living including the regular tasks of housekeeping can create fire hazards as we age. In this case, cloth items were on top of the stove. While emergency personal were taking her out of the apartment for a medical need, the stove was inadvertently turned on resulting in the fire which started while no one was at home. Continue reading
Although I could never imagine myself living with a dog of any kind, I can see that for my brother, his small but lively dogs are a very bright threesome in his life and a real necessity for this season.
Having a pet requires a decent amount of dedication and commitment, but seniors sometimes find that pets are extremely beneficial friends and just a pure bundle of joy. The companionship that his trio of little dogs provides motivates my brother to get more involved in daily activities and socializing.
Most fascinating of this threesome is Augustus Valentine. He is a lively Yorkshire Terrier that could jump almost to the top of the small fence enclosure that held him close to his teammates on the patio when I came for a visit. As I inquired about his name, I learned that at first glance, he just looked like a little guy named “Gus”. Believing that name was too casual for his special breed, the name was formalized on the spot to…… Augustus Valentine. Continue reading