Decide to treat all your neighbors with consideration and respect. Be a resident ‘ambassadors’ to help welcome newcomers as they transition into the community.
Aspire to live by the Golden Rule.
Today we often read about cyber bullies among young people, but bullying also plagues seniors. The behavior being referenced would be incidents of name-calling, bossy behavior, loud arguments, snubs and aggression.
Causes and strategies
Fear can be one reason for bullying, says Renee Garfinkel, a Washington, D.C.-based psychologist who specializes in aging issues, but it’s also “that human phenomenon of the strong picking on the weak. It’s not a function of aging. It’s a function of pathology.” Continue reading
Here’s the thing… It is never too late to develop a personal walk with God and old age is as good a time as any to begin.
I grew up in the early 50’s and my parents like many of their friends believed in making it a practice to attend church as a family. For them, church was a core item in our home and not an addendum that would be discarded by other distractions. Quite the opposite… Other distractions were discarded or never considered on the basis of what they were learning and becoming as a result of their devotion to personal growth in their faith walk with God. Continue reading
Sometimes it is necessary to “go into the game fighting” so to speak, but most of the time the issue at hand I not a big deal.
Football season in here and grandparents are often making sure they are in the stands to cheer for the young people who are “in the game”.
As aging people, living in close proximity to a variety of people, we need to choose a position as well in the games of life that play out all around us each day. We can choose to play “defensively” when an offensive comment or encounter is hurled our way, seemingly from out of nowhere. Continue reading
Smiling is a good idea for lots of reasons. A sunny disposition and demeanor favorably colors the interactions of my days for the most part… but not every time.
“Hi Smiley” was the greeting I recently received from a business associate while attending a lovely event in glamorous surroundings. It was early in the day and the mood was festive and pleasant. It was interesting to think about the notion that I must come across as a person who is smiling and cheerful a good bit of the time. As I considered this thought, the words to a song taught to me by my parents came to mind.
Let the sunshine in, face it with a grin.
Smilers never lose, and frowners never win,
So let the sunshine in, face it with a grin.
Open up your heart and let the sunshine in. Continue reading
Everything about scouting is handled by volunteers, and the Scouts working on these projects are young developing future leaders of the community.
This week I met with a young man who is working to become and Eagle Scout. This soon to be 10th grader is interested in pursuing an Eagle Project, which I have learned is no small undertaking.
A quality Eagle project takes time. The Scout must do all pre-planning, design, any fundraising, and go through a multi-step review process with the end user of his work, property owners, his scout troop and the scouting district. Most Scouts plan 6–9 months for an Eagle Project, taking it from a concept to a fully fledged plan, getting it reviewed (which often involves changes), reviewed again until it is fully ready, and then to implementation. Continue reading
Here’s the thing… we all have some money, but that is not the only “spendable” thing we have to work with.
Feeling the financial “pinch”? If so, you have lots of company. When you start talking to people there is never any shortage of complaints and the old adage if often heard, “The money ran out before the month.” We’ve all been there.
I recently heard of a cost cutting measure that is working like a charm for some of my elderly friends. Granted, these folks are already living in a financially affordable apartment home, having left the big expensive setting behind as their children grew up and established their own families, but the “pinch” is still felt, even by these careful proactive people. Continue reading
I wrote my own story in 500 words, making sure I did not leave out the failures and mistakes that were also part of the tapestry of my life so far.
No matter how old I feel, I know that I am in the final quarter of the game. There is a lot of living left, but I think often about what I want to leave behind for the people I love. The essence of connection to other people is “being known” and I want those I love to know who I am and what I am about.
Obviously, I will leave behind all my stuff and whatever money I have accumulated, but what I really want to leave is the ideas and beliefs that have driven everything along the way. Continue reading
As I left the theater, a young employee smiled and said, “Thank you for coming to our theater. I hope you enjoyed your movie.” I told Him that I did not enjoy the movie and pleaded with him not to see it adding, “I don’t know why I made myself in to a garbage can for the last hour and paid for it besides!”
I like to work. The tasks are clear when my time is spent producing desired results. At the end of the day, no matter how tough the problems were, I feel great about what I was able to accomplish. Sometimes it is just a piece of the problem was solved, but the feeling of make a valuable contribution to the project is very satisfying.
Last week I had a rare day off for a holiday and consequently, found myself with extra time on my hands in the afternoon. I went to the local mall to look around and decided to take in a movie. I chose the one that was starting just as I arrived, bought a small bag of popcorn… for a huge price, and settled in to a common entertainment experience.
The movie was about six boarded young adults with lots of time and money who were looking of a “different kind of experience”. Continue reading
This new venture with my son has me thinking about the importance of investing in the spiritual lives of children and in their character development. This morning I heard a speaker say… “Professional success without a successor is failure.”
Recently my youngest son asked me to join him on Sunday mornings for the whole summer to teach the bible to young children who are 6 and 7 years old. I was thrilled to say yes! Our teaching team will get together each Saturday morning for the summer season to eat breakfast together and to and plan for the next days lesson. Although I do not know all the adult who will be on the team as yet, I am looking forward to the whole process.
We will focus on the life of a Peter, one of the disciples of Jesus who began as a fisherman and became a great spiritual leader whose influence has impacted generations. Continue reading
Find a younger person that is living in the storm of life right now that you have lived in the past. There are no NEW problems, just recycled ones!
As we get older, there is a natural drift toward isolation. Senior men and women begin to feel marginalized as their world shrinks and the choices are not as wide open as they were in the past. So how can we find meaning and purpose for our lives during the final season? How can we invest ourselves during the final season?
We live our lives forward, but we understand them by looking backward. Continue reading